Today is our 6th wedding anniversary. The week before our anniversary I always get a little bit reflective on the flurry of events and emotion that surrounded our wedding and the journey we've been on since January 20th, 2006. This past week has been no different in that regard.
This past week-end I was going through every bedroom pulling together all of our laundry for the Sunday laundry marathon. I walked into our closet and dumped out our laundry bin, stood there for a moment smiling...and went back to doing laundry. I love doing laundry, always have. I'm weird like that. One of the things I thought was fun about getting married was that I'd get to do someone else's laundry too (someone should have told me about boys and their never-ending amounts of dirty socks and undershirts - sheesh!). When we were first married we each had our own laundry bin on our respective sides of the closet. It wasn't a conscious decision we made, just sort of happened as I moved into the town house he had already been living in pre-wedding. I have no idea at what point we went from 2 laundry bins down to 1 collective shared laundry bin. But I got to thinking as I stood there smiling at our 1 SHARED bin this week...what else in our lives has gone from separate to shared. Individual to collective. 'ME' to 'US.'
After 6 years of marriage there are many things like the laundry bins that started out as 'yours' and 'mine' that are now 'ours' and I'm proud of those things, but I think my challenge for this 7th year of doing life together will be to look for the places I've been unwilling to truly MERGE from 2 to 1 and be more intentional about changing that. This is a hard thing for an independent, oldest child, type A, CONTROL FREAK like myself because most of these places are more matters of the heart than tangible objects in our closet. Thankfully I'm married to a patient, loves-me-even-though-I'm-said-control-freak (or perhaps it's in spite of that?), not terrible to look at [wink] husband. Bring it on 2012 - the year of ONE-NESS!
Happy Anniversary to my favorite boy!
"So they are no longer two, but one flesh." -- Mark 10:8
